Lightworker, are boundaries your downfall?
Do you have trouble saying no? Do you find it hard to stand up for yourself if someone is out of order?
Exhausting isn’t it?
I want to talk about boundaries that make sense to lightworkers specifically and a way to help with this. Most Lightworkers are sensitive souls who care deeply and generously for others. But many also do this in such a way that they can end up feeling depleted at least, and at worst burned out.
If you answered yes to either of the two questions above it could be that you need to work on your boundaries.
Trouble saying No. Does this resonate with you. Something is asked of you and it would really put on you to do this. It doesn’t feel right to you, but you say ‘yes, sure,’ anyway.
A really useful tip I learned is to say simply ‘I’m not sure, can I come back to you soon about this? I need to check and see.’
This gives you time to weigh things up. And to think of how to say no if you don’t want to do this. There is no need to make up any excuses by the way. Don’t feel that you always need a reason to refuse someone. You can always just say ‘no sorry, can’t help with that,’ in a very respectful way.
If the other person is frequently pushy, then the less info you give them the better. The more you try to explain yourself the more you show you are trying to justify your decision. Scroll down to have a look at my Youtube video about saying no.
In my ‘Shine, Lightworker’ event this January in Dublin I’ll be sharing with you many more tips and techniques for self-care to help you to really thrive and step into your light. I hope you’ll join me, click here to book your spot.
Finding it hard to stand up for yourself if someone is out of order. If someone oversteps the mark do you find it difficult to confront them about it? This is another boundary infringement when people treat us this way and get away with it as we don’t stop it.
I always found this hard in the past. Maybe it was that my self-esteem was low and I didn’t think I deserved to stand up for myself. But there came a time when I no longer wanted to put up with being mistreated, and I began to find my voice.
Quick Tip: this can be a throat chakra issue when we can’t express what we need to say to someone who oversteps the mark. Ask Archangel Michael to step into your aura and infuse your throat chakra with light.
Archangel Michael, please help me now to express myself clearly. To know what to say to this person in order to stand up for myself. I choose to speak my truth with love and to be an advocate for myself and others with my words. Help me to release any fears that I may have been holding in my throat chakra now. Allow me to invoke your light-warrior energy when needed so that I can deal with this in the best way possible.
Thank you. It is done.